How to Make a Decision Using The Work

Do you have trouble making decisions?

Find you spend a lot of time in the “I should”/ “I shouldn’t” space when you make a decision?

Do you notice that you back and forward trying to make a decision and yet you really struggle with it?

Why not try the double bind exercise?

The double bind exercise allows you to look at both sides of the story or dilemma that you find yourself in.  It offers you a way to see both sides of the decision you are trying to make and provides a way of questioning your beliefs about doing it, or not doing it. I’ve found it has been useful in helping me see what is holding me back from making a decision either way.

When I do this exercise and list both my ‘why I would do it’ beliefs and then the ‘why I wouldn’t do it’ beliefs, I really get close to where the most emotion is for me.

Then taking my beliefs to The Work helps me to cut through those things stopping me from making the decision.  It helps me gain clarity and understanding of what I want.

Listen to the Podcast

Download the exercise

You might like to work with this Work exercise “Can’t Stay, Can’t Leave” developed by Certified Facilitator Ravi Nathan.  It is an exercise in exploring both sides of the dilemma, catch-22 or double bind using  The Work.

The downloadable pdf document explains the exercise and how to go about working through it.

It is great for those relationship situations where you are not sure if you want to stay or want to leave.  You can also use in nearly any life situation where you are procrastinating and unable to make a decision easily.  Do we sell the house or stay living here?   Do I quit my job or stay?

If you try the exercise I am interested to hear if it worked for you.

 

 

About Karen Munro

Karen is a Certified Facilitator of The Work of Byron Katie and a trained Counsellor. She wants to be of service to improve your peacefulness through self-inquiry. Karen supports individuals, businesses and practitioners.

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